Be the change!

I'm not a "Can't Even" type of person. In fact, it always drives me INSANE when someone says, "I can't even."

You can't even what? Please, enlighten me!

In the next 24 hours, I know a lot of people out there are feeling the "I can't evens."

Take time to pray for, send positive energy, light a candle, whatever it is you CAN do to help the things going on in this nation.

On top of that, in the next 4 years, do something to create a positive change on this Earth! Join a music group or something artistic. Find a group that supports something you believe in and join in the fight. That group doesn't have to be religious. It could be a group fighting for basic freedoms for everyone. Volunteer at a homeless shelter or women's shelter.

Donate money to organizations that are going to need it! (Planned Parenthood, Women's Shelters, LBGTQ Groups and Youth Groups, Suicide Prevention Organizations, Arts Organizations) Write your Senators and Congress people! Make sure they know, WE ARE THE PEOPLE THEY ARE REPRESENTING! NOT THE BIG CORPORATIONS WITH MONEY!!! Stop shopping with the big corporations that buy these Senators and congress people!

On top of it all, it may be hard to not gripe, complain, and feel love for others that may not have the same opinion as us. But we need to be the example. Be the leaders that show others that WE CAN!!! I challenge every single one of you to go out and DO SOMETHING POSITIVE!

Tomorrow, go forth with love and a positive attitude that YOU CAN! YOU CAN MAKE THAT CHANGE!!!

Baby Making is Expensive! Thoughts on Infertility

Why is your way to get a baby better than mine?
Now, you may ask, why would I ask such a question! Well, I know lots of women that are in the same situation I am. They cannot get pregnant without help. Well, if you didn't know, fertility treatments, In Vitro Fertilization to be exact, run in the $17,000 range in Indiana. And that's just for the first try, with a maybe 60% chance of getting pregnant.
On top of that, if we decide to adopt instead of fertility treatments, private adoption is in the $35,000 range.
So, why do women get so defensive in the way we get the money to do it?
I decided to sell Mary Kay to start earning more money to go towards this goal.
When I told one women who had done fertility treatments, "Hey, I've started selling Mary Kay to help us earn the money towards IVF!" She said,"Why don't you do a Gofundme instead?" I had another person tell me, She took out a loan at the bank to have her twins. When I told her about the Mary Kay, she refused to even answer my messages!
I feel judged. They may not be able to buy Mary Kay right now, and that's fine. But why the shadiness? Why not just say, "I'm sorry. I can't buy right now, but good luck on your journey!" I know these women did other things like, sell baked goods they personally made. (Not really legal without a "Roadside Stand Certification" in Indiana.) Yes, I didn't buy any, but I did wish them luck, and gave love and support on their journey to getting a baby.
I'm selling a legit product, legally, and working towards a goal.
I do love these women. I want them to be successful on their journeys.
I'm not going to take out a loan that I have fear of looming over our heads for years, and there's a chance that the baby won't even happen on the first try. I don't want to beg people for free money. Trust me. I have supported the women that do this by making donations. I'm not judging their ways. This just isn't the way I want to accomplish our goal.
Why do I feel I'm being judged for my choice?